MIAMI – As divorce becomes inevitable, parents may initially agree to a friendly parting of the ways that will minimize the emotional damage to their children. But as the process evolves, this friendly approach to divorce may deteriorate, resulting in hatred and anger. And the children are usually the collateral damage, suffering from long-term emotional and developmental problems.
But according to the Miami-based Collaborative Family Law Institute (www.collaborativefamlaw.com) it doesn’t have to be that way. The collaborative process brings civility, a focus on mutual outcomes, and a concern for the children to the process. “At some point divorcing parents have to put their petty differences aside and come up with a strategy that preserves income and is in the best interests of the kids,” said Dr. Craig Fabrikant, Psychologist, and collaboratively trained professional. “Our process takes all of this into consideration. Divorce is painful, but we’re trying to make it less painful.”
Collaborative divorce is a voluntary process in which couples, with the assistance of collaboratively-trained professionals, work toward reaching a settlement on fair and equitable terms without the financial and emotional cost that often accompanies litigation. Through the Collaborative Process, the parties choose to resolve the issues in their dissolution in a mutually beneficial way, outside of the court system. In a Collaborative Divorce, the parties are empowered to make their own decisions and customize the terms of an agreement based upon their particular needs and interests.
The team is comprised of collaboratively trained professionals including two family attorneys, one neutral financial professional and a neutral mental health professional.
“Parents, too often, want to win and hurt the other spouse,” added Lisette Beraja, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. “They lose sight of the damage it does to their children.”
Some of the symptoms children display include:
● Feeling unloved as they witness the loss of love between parents
● Inability to make commitments as they see parents break their commitments
● Among younger children, dependence intensifies
● Among adolescents, independence, anger, and aggression intensifies
● Confusion related to adjusting to the “back and forth” lifestyle and having two homes
“Families turning to the collaborative process acknowledge the need for divorce,” said Beraja. “But they’re taking a more mature and responsible approach, one that strives to reach a settlement on fair and equitable terms. The goal is to eliminate most of the financial and emotional costs associated with divorce.
Contact Email : firstname.lastname@example.org
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Website : COLLABORATIVE FAMILY LAW INSTITUTE, INC.
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